Shopping Cart
Your Cart is Empty
Quantity:
Subtotal
Taxes
Shipping
Total
There was an error with PayPalClick here to try again
CelebrateThank you for your business!You should be receiving an order confirmation from Paypal shortly.Exit Shopping Cart

Ellé Bell Café

A Coffee & Gift Shop

111 W. Main St., Union SC

Journal

Journal

Loyalty to Me

Posted on September 15, 2011 at 6:15 PM

The other day a woman I work with came up to me and whispered," Is the man you been dating, is he... well, is he a black man?" The air was thick with her discomfort and I stood there for a minute soaking it in. "Why do you ask?", I was curious. "Oh don't make no matter no how, I just heard something and wondered if it was true is all..."

Being raised in vanilla farm country as a corn fed white girl in a predominantly English speaking white community, I don't understand racism, or the thought or feeling that I am united with other white people because I am white. More importantly, I do not understand how all are not all united in America, the worlds largest melting pot, completely indifferent to skin color. When will people realize we are not to be looked at as different races, but all part of the same human race?

I currently live in a small rural community deep in the south, and still understand very little comparatively in the big picture about racism in the south, or racism at all. I do not feel like I am united with "my people" because we share a skin tone. There are many cruel, backwards, ignorant white people in this world, and the same with all people despite their "color". My point is what gives anyone the right to judge me, or my relationship, especially if the only thing I have in common with the person judging me is our skin color? My loyalty is to my God, my family, and myself. If your thinking isn't right, I don't care what color your skin is, I have no loyalty to you.

I have dated and married white men. For whatever reason, it didn't work out. My fault, their fault doesn't matter - I wasn't happy. Realizing a pattern in the type of people I was with, my eyes were opened and I decided I never wanted to make the same mistakes again. So I decided I would consider the person on the inside and truly be colorblind, because love isn't always what you think it is. If you have truly never found it, it probably is what you think it isn't. Well, it made sense in my head, anyway.

So here I am, in a relationship with a wonderful man who loves God, served his country, and is the most compassionate and understanding person I have ever met. He is funny, and strong, he chooses his words carefully to hit their mark, and supports me and my goals and dreams. He is so very, very good to me. Ours is a relationship based on respect, trust, and love. How can you deny that because of other peoples prejudice?

We go out in the community, and some people take a second look, make faces, or stare... I guess I look at it like it is really not about them, anyway. The way I see it is the degree of their reaction is reflective of their degree of ignorance. I love him, he loves me and we have the type of relationship that others wish they had. Isn't that what it is about anyway? Finding someone who brings peace, love, and happiness in your life?

I am proud of him, I am proud of us together. If you spent 10 minutes with us, you would understand it too. We have a long road ahead of us, but rest assured we will not focus on the looks, or the faces, or the stares we may get on that road. Hand in hand we will walk our road together, laughing the entire way:)

 

Categories: Lovin' Life

Post a Comment

Oops!

Oops, you forgot something.

Oops!

The words you entered did not match the given text. Please try again.

7 Comments

Reply ovestotte
12:50 PM on December 12, 2020 
Achat Kamagra Paris Engape cialis for sale online appavekedkix pharmacie sans ordonnance
Reply ovestotte
1:38 PM on May 4, 2021 
buy cialis
Reply Crobots
7:13 AM on May 31, 2021 
kamagra jelly efectos secundarios
Reply Crobots
9:23 AM on June 17, 2021 
online cialis
Reply ARERSEMUS
10:29 AM on April 25, 2022 
proposed considering breeding doubt
http://lisay3.sg-host.com/community/profile/jermainechave4/ triamterene best price
http://www.lankadesha.com/community/profile/quinnmaudsley38/ stadine the pill
http://www.gbhits.co.uk/community/profile/brittney91p4283/ medications buy visa australia
http://philosophersroom.com/community/profile/amyshields6683/ rosiglitazone dosage
http://iafmec.org/community/profile/monapan03482068/ order generic medicine
http://escnintranet.com/community/forum/profile/joiebunker10372/ cost of ranexa
http://www.lankadesha.com/community/profile/andylindt955328/ dariten order pharmacy australia
http://wordpress.guru.in.th/community/profile/silkepackard92/ kroger pharmacy gift card coupon
http://ourroundtable.net/community/profile/gudrungrano9917/ buy drugs no rx
http://chooseveterans.com/community/profile/robtillyard411/ cheapest arava purchase otc
http://itmaa.org/community/profile/adalandrum04816/ mulligans pharmacy discount code
http://www.9thinfantrydivisioninwwii.net/community/profile/penelo
pegooch21/ buy ambroxol nz
http://rueda19.net.ar/community/profile/joiet1862707245/ discount drug store rasmussen
http://www.theheallions.club/community/profile/sallyjanssen05/ generic tablets where to order florida
http://www.dumpsterdiving.no/samfunn/profile/margaretabate47/ See more
https://sandyk.kz/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&task=user
&id=406645&zincovit cheapest generic zincovit 500mg in china
https://www.altersoftware.es/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlis
t&task=user&id=76021 want to buy order 10mg in korea
http://gerontologiaonline.com.br/index.php?option=com_k2&view=ite
mlist&task=user&id=422623 price metformin-pioglitazone 50mg
http://autoinkoop247.nl/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&tas
k=user&id=292370&aristocort price aristocort ecuador
https://www.altersoftware.es/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlis
t&task=user&id=75137 buy generic perlutex 2mg in china
http://philosophersroom.com/community/profile/everettrivera4/ see all
https://www.marialauravannucciaccessories.com/index.php?option=co
m_k2&view=itemlist&task=user&id=400092&glucophage where to purchase glucophage 1.5mg in japan
https://rcg-ia.com/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&task=use
r&id=145363 order money order online payment
hq mysteries homecoming lively
Reply ARERSEMUS
8:40 AM on April 26, 2022 
slghlng moreover hitler er
http://www.j-tune.co.uk/dev/community/profile/franziskamadira/ how to redeem apollo pharmacy gift card
http://www.priceactionguru.senchola.com/community/profile/carmelo
solis560/ buying tonavir online
http://leae.co.uk/community/profile/jeffreywurfel1/ can i buy syndopa online europe
http://openlyvoluntary.com/Lets-think-forum/profile/zitar72345214
1/ buy meds from canada
http://finn-tech.net/community/profile/danielemcnabb4 cheapest medicine canada
http://64stgb.de/community/profile/sonkoch59533584/ buy actonel in usa without prescription
http://nokiasrc.com/forum/profile/joellenfontenot/ buy cheap online valpakine
http://blueberrygaming.in/forum/profile/phillipschreine/ buy generic medicine united states
http://thebestthingintheworld.co.uk/community/profile/hjnjosephin
e52/ order espercil chicago
http://www.uwtd.me/profile/zqojina8851615/ where to buy generic nodict
http://gta5meet.com/community/profile/birgitp3298361/ pregabalin price uk
http://standpunkt-barrierefreiheit.de/community/profile/kellibarn
ett52/ cost of medications
http://www.campingiceland.com/community/profile/claribelmondrag generic doxycycline purchase now florida
http://www.csequipmentsales.com/community/profile/aracelisbernays
/ cheap noroclav price
http://www.lemaster.com.br/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&
task=user&id=3030727 order cytotec oakland
https://goodmam.ru/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&task=use
r&id=632226 generic urivoid order now shopping australia
http://ariamuhendislik.com/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&
task=user&id=684381 buy hepaglan 350mg online in the uk
https://medic.zkgmu.kz/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&task
=user&id=466464&priligy can you buy priligy on the street
https://sandyk.kz/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&task=user
&id=402244 cheap order without prescription usa
http://knksmartcapital.com/dashboard/profile/eulaliatenorio/ learn more
https://sezenlerltd.com/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&tas
k=user&id=156663&estradiol-valerate order now cheapest estradiol-valerate mastercard europe
https://sandyk.kz/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&task=user
&id=408824 generic order mail order shop australia
http://steklokvarz.ru/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&task=
user&id=169651&creon buy cheap creon 15mg in china
http://www.lemaster.com.br/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&
task=user&id=3030207 price order order
https://sezenlerltd.com/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&tas
k=user&id=156625&irbesartan irbesartan dosage too high
https://thetestingworld.com/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist
&task=user&id=987065&baycip where to purchase baycip 10mg in korea
https://thetestingworld.com/index.php?option=com_k2&view=itemlist
&task=user&id=986579 can you buy lopinavir over the counter in cancun
http://www.artdecordesignitu.com.br/index.php?option=com_k2&view=
itemlist&task=user&id=252959 boots pharmacy buy combivent
killed executed britain cave fever
Reply Uniccag
12:32 PM on April 29, 2022 
shane bread skills lasts
http://www.lankadesha.com/community/profile/jacobfenton293/ medicine order now shop europe
http://stylehoppa.com/profile/velmamcmullen91/ generic flovent in usa
http://checkyourlife.de/community/profile/marissafreitag3/ can i buy now serophene usa
http://thehealthstudents.com/profile/eleanoreroach33/ buy nitroglycerin usa online
http://sakwora.com/index.php/forum/profile/hildredpape2601/ buy drugs italia
http://finn-tech.net/community/profile/dominiquekessel buy pamelor bangkok
http://www.royalzgaming.com/index/profile/mickiesher72188/ kings pharmacy discount code
http://backfishingclub.com/community/profile/jacintofisher8/ cheapest arimidex australia
http://theibohub.onecallcrew.com/community/profile/michelldibdin6
/ generic calcitriol available
http://www.steroids.reviews/forum/profile/rosemarytunn308 canadian pharmacy hydrocortisone
http://caminhodafe.com.br/ptbr/community/profile/kristikinder91/ can i purchase now clotrimazole europe
http://panafricantheologyandpastoralnetwork.org/community/profile
/juliansouter11/ buy norvir spain
http://creativitytool.com/community/profile/justinelahey581/ buy zovirax no doctor
http://www.campingiceland.com/community/profile/geraldbothwell7 buy now cheap methotrexate shop otc
http://bimproject.org.pe/community/profile/clyde00f266162/ buy poxet mexico
http://blueberrygaming.in/forum/profile/mckinley471214/ purchase avelox usa online
http://immi-talk.com/community/profile/garrettfurneaux/ generic medications available
http://sitml.com/community/profile/alexisdimattia5/ buy betamethasone-clioquinol usa online
http://learningmoodle.co.za/profile/barryjenkins517/ buy reclast bitcoin
http://ofwtalk.com/community/profile/liladoughty1265/ nvs pharmacy student discount
http://bittyspaceprogram.com/discussion/profile/orvillemejia365/ gyne-lotrimin pills buy now online
http://snow-nation.ca/community/profile/tammiebignold78/ money order medications pharmacy europe
http://rayfamilyco.com/community/profile/quincy89j076487/ medications price
http://www.numenprocess.fr/forum/profile/marylynpinnock8/ buy dabigatran visa
http://bizybookstore.com/community/profile/venetta98r8265/ cheap depade no rx
http://www.teengali.com/teen-moments/profile/valeriadonaldso/ buy anastrozole btc
cope screws prague interests